A boys sexual organ is external and without a doubt erects often in their youth. A girls sexual organ is hidden and thought not to arouse easily. Where boys think of sex and get an erection, it is thought woman need touch and romance.
So, in essence, boys were born to masturbate because they cannot help or control getting an erection and need to release it through ejaculation and women were not.
There has been without a doubt a double standard. Boys are high fived for their sexual accomplishments and girls are often shamed. Most woman were taught masturbation is wrong, nudity is dirty, and sleeping around makes you a whore.
This same belief system led to the idea that men were not born for monogamy and women were.
All bullshit!
All part of repression and suppression that has lead to so many mental and emotional issues mostly among women; and then, a disconnect between men and women having the most fulfilling sex lives because of walls and limited beliefs embedded... not to mention failure to communicate about sex. Afraid to speak up on behalf of ones needs in fear of perhaps hurting another's feeling.
The self sacrificing that takes place out of fear we might hurt someone feelings is insane.
Its is never what is said, it is how it said.
More and most important, is there a chance that if you are feeling less than a truly satisfying sexual relationship, that perhaps your partner is too? Chance are you both are very much feeling the same way and neither one of you are willing to speak up to truth to create what you both ultimately desire and crave.
The double standard between men and women is founded on beliefs and not truth or facts.
Would it actually surprise you to know that studies have actually revealed that a woman’s sexual arousal for the same person diminishes gradually over time and men’s actually remains the same.
In addition, studies reveal that a heterosexual female gets aroused by both men and woman. That’s right, Woman get just as equally aroused by watching porn with two women as they do watching porn with interactions between a man and a woman. In contrary, heterosexual men do not get aroused watching interaction between two men. Woman are born bisexual. A woman’s preference for gender in a relationship goes way beyond what arouses them sexually.
I am of the belief woman are far more sexual beings than men. We are just taught to suppress; therefore, a lot of woman don’t explore their bodies or release their sexual energy.
I have personally had a higher sex drive than any man I have dated or been in a relationship with throughout my life.
To the point, that I learned going into my divorce, to put my cards out on the table on the first date to determine who could match me and who would eliminate themselves because they knew they didn't have the health or drive to match me.
I was no longer willing to settle for not happy or happy enough in a relationship.
When you clear the pathways to reveal who you are sexually, you learn your truths, and you can begin to live within them by speaking your truths to others,
It is so freeing!
I refuse to not live in integrity of self by contributing to the repression and suppression that has caused so much hurt in peoples lives.
I actually think we have the obesity epidemic in this country and others as a result of repression and suppression, people eating for endorphin and dopamine releases that they are not getting from sources they should. Not to mention mental and emotional illnesses.